“Being a Warrior is not about the act of fighting. It's about being so prepared to face a challenge and believing so strongly in a cause that you are fighting for that you refuse to quit.”-Richard Machowicz
Do you think you are a warrior? Do you think you can be a warrior? Of course you have a warrior in you, we all do. At some point in our life we will become that warrior, in someone else's eyes. We will step up and be the fighter, the hero, the warrior, it will not be difficult, it will happen quite naturally for you. Because, that is what happens when we are called to serve our purpose in life. We become a warrior in the heart of the people whom we love.
Christopher my son became my warrior he was the reason I could do what I had to do every single day. He helped me struggle through my minutes, my hours my days, my weeks and my years. It Is not an easy task to watch someone you love die. It is not an easy journey to walk as you can imagine. However, Christopher was the warrior on our journey he was the one that help me to keep walking this journey every single minute of the day with “a heart of kindness.” With his heart, his brave heart, he helped me walk this journey. Now you may be wondering how could he do this? How could he be so giving, when he was dying? How could he not be angry? How could he not just be the epitome of anger?
He was on a warriors journey he was here to show us what real love was all about. He was here to teach me love, compassion, understanding and what genuine love was all about. When I say love real love, I mean not the love you receive from someone that is out the door when you do not conform to their needs. But, the real deep love you may only receive when you love yourself deeply. When you can be honest within your own heart. When you can love yourself so deeply that you can show someone else the same unconditional love without any expectations or attachments to the outcome of the situation. You are there 100% for them no-matter what the situation is that you find yourself in.
I found my hero in Christopher and I am positive that he found his warrior in me. I know that he loved me deeply because, he was the reason that I climbed out of bed every single day and put one foot in front of the other to keep going after his death.
It was hard to breathe, it was hard to put my feet on the floor and thank God my higher power for this day. However, I did it because Christopher taught me to love deep and he taught me the power of true love and compassion. You cannot find this love anywhere but, deep down inside your own heart, you must first leave your mind and go into your heart to discover who you are. And ask yourself the hardest questions you may ever have to ask yourself, about your integrity and who you really are. What am I here to do in this lifetime? But, most of all who am I really? What is my purpose on this earth? I could not believe in myself enough, to know honestly, how I was going to walk this journey with my child. His journey of a lifetime, how was this ever going to happen? The answer to this question Christopher had the love for both of us; he was teaching me every single day about love, hope, compassion, faith, he was teaching me to be a warrior, a brave heart. Christopher was my heart of kindness. He taught me how to keep on keeping on, even with all the obstacles and challenges in the way. He taught me to believe in me, even when no one believed in me. He taught me that people have an agenda in life and sometimes it can and will clash with your agenda. It does not mean that you have to conform to their agenda. It means you can rise up, face the challenges that people put in front of you and keep going on your journey of life. It means we all have choices in life we all have a path to walk the choices are ours to make and we can choose what path to take; with the path we choose we will have challenges and sometimes the challenges we face, we will not like. However, the warrior in you will always find an opportunity in every challenge you just have to walk your path, your journey of choices to find your opportunity even though you have no idea where your journey of life will take you on the path you are walking.
You take your love in your heart, you take your hope, you take your compassion and you find you will meet someone in your life that will give you your purpose for the path you are walking. On that path you chose, you will find a million challenges and the challenges are your opportunities for the future.
This is how I was able to write the book “A Heart of Kindness” I walked the journey of a lifetime with Christopher (his story) I chose this path and I loved him unconditionally he was my child of hope, love and compassion who never ever gave up on me and I was not ever going to let him give up on himself. He was my challenge and I was his and we both found our opportunities in that little flicker of hope for a new tomorrow.
Christopher did not die he is right here in “A Heart of Kindness” in
my heart and this book and everything I continue to do in my life. In my challenges and opportunities he is in my heart, he is “A Heart of Kindness.”
“Be kind to yourself always.”
Go into your heart and discover who you really are, I am sure you will find you have “A Heart of Kindness” all of your own.
“Kindness matters for our self-growth, it helps us heal.-”Wendy Comeau
Wendy B. Comeau
This is the beginning of your life story “Be Who You Are.” Do not ever change who you are unless you have sat down and took inventory of yourself, and said “I would like to improve or change this about myself.” Change is good, growth is good, life is always better when you can be the best version of yourself. However, things become dangerous and more complicated as you go through the different doors of life; if you change for someone else, you will become lost, you will become a person that you do not recognize any more. Because, when you started off walking through the doors of life you conformed once, you conformed twice, you conformed three times; and now you have lost count. Do not ever change who you are for anyone. Life is too short, and you do not need to spend your life trying to get back the best part of who you were. You have value, you are unique, and you do not ever need to be with anyone who thinks otherwise.
I am finding now that I have learned a lot of different lessons in my life. Some lessons I had to keep repeating over, and over again until I learned. One may say Wow! Wendy Wow! you are a slow learner. My reply would have to be yes, I guess I am. But, I learned; I learned the hard way. This is not about not trusting; it is about not changing who you believe you are. Be your authentic self, from your core, your heart, your mind and your soul; you and no-one else can change who you are. You have a right to be who you are, you have a right to be you.
Please do not forget to ask yourself the question Who Am I? If you see any red flags so to speak, please make a note about it and ask yourself the right questions you need to ask yourself; to get back to your authentic you.
Life is short and we all have a right to be the best version of ourself and live our life with love, hope, joy, and peace
“Be Who You Are!” “Be You!” 😊
Part 2 of 3
One day I will be brave, I thought to myself. I am going to tell people if you do not like who I am, go, keep looking for someone that will conform to your idea of who you want them to be. Because, I can not conform to what other people want me to be. I can only be who I am! Me! I like me, and I am going to be who I am. I am going to be true to me. I am not perfect I do not pretend to be perfect. My goal in life is only to be me, and my competition in life is with myself. It is not with anyone else. I struggle and strive to be better than I was yesterday. I would like to think when I go to bed at night and when I wake up in the morning that I can be kinder than I was the day before. Life is short you hear this statement all the time. Then why? Would I want to spend the life I have left on this earth like everyone else? Why would I want to be like everyone else? That has never been a goal of mine. To fit in, fall in line and be like everyone else; all because someone else wanted me to be that way.
If you dare to ask them, why do you want me to be like someone other than myself? They look at you like you have ten heads and you just asked the worst question in the world. I now find it much easier in life to say; hello I am Wendy, if you are looking for me to be like anyone else keep going, keep looking do not stop here. Do not say to me I want you to be my friend.
Friends like you for who you are. They do not give you a list and say, I want you to change everything about yourself that is on this list come back in a week or two when you have my wish list completed. I will let you know if you need to change anything else before we can become friends. This does not work for me and I know it would not work for the people that I am friends with. I value my friends for who they are. For their uniqueness and what we value in our differences. We do not ever say I want you to be like who! Does this person even exist, is it only a figment of the imagination or an illusion?
Why am I me? This is a question I have been asking myself, I am sure since I could talk. Why am I me? Who else should I be? Sometimes our parents, our grandparents and our friends think that it would be nice if I was more like someone else. Life almost felt like an on-going competition until one day, I heard myself yelling back “why am I me?” What am I doing here on this earth in this universe, if you want me to be someone else? What is my purpose? Why do you want me to be like everyone else? I like being me! I like being who I am. Why do I need to change, who I am? And why am I like I am? To make everyone else happy? I know I make me happy; I know I like myself.
These questions seem easy enough to answer, however, they became more difficult as I began to grow older. I started to think about all the great things I valued about myself, about my uniqueness, things about me that no-one else could duplicate. My eyes, my hair, how thick and beautiful it is; my voice, how, I say things. My body language, how sometimes, I can speak with my body or the way I react to people and the things they say. I thought, I have value, I am unique. I am not perfect, but, who is? Everyone is valuable, everyone needs to know that they have value. It does not matter what you look like on the outside.
What is important is what you carry in your heart. It took me years to realize, I do not want to be like anyone else. I want to be me. I want to be who I am. I want people to like me and value me for what I carry in my heart. I don’t want to be anyone else but, me.
Author of "A Heart of Kindness"